Emily Turinas

"Caring is when you help someone because you want to and you can. Codependency is when you help someone even when you don't want to and it's destroying you—because you believe your worth depends on it."

"Anxious attachment isn't about being 'needy' or 'clingy.' It's a nervous system response to perceived threats of abandonment—threats that feel real even when the relationship is actually stable."

The intensity of this dynamic often feels like chemistry, like passion. But it's not chemistry. It's anxiety. It's two people triggering each other's attachment wounds over and over again.